we are so obsessed with beauty that we forget that love has nothing to do with beauty. love doesn’t presuppose beauty: love creates it. beauty is a finite thing, love is not. beauty cannot come before love, but love makes anything beautiful.
I’m not saying he would win, but like….I get it
This is an interesting story because people my parents age are like “How dare he” and people my age are like “oh same”
What’s even more interesting is he’s not serious. In India there’s a culture of intense deference to parents. He believes that this is a very unhealthy way for people to live and so he’s using this court case as a way to tell people that the idea of “you must grovel in gratitude to your parents because they brought you into the world and fed and clothed you” is a bad thing and that parents have to feed and clothe you because it’s their damn job and they chose to have you.
He really gets on with his own parents and his mother has publicly voiced her support for him.
Tl;dr: This isn’t incel bullshit like the dude who’s parents evicted him last year, this is a political protest to unhealthy expectations parents have for their children even though he isn’t pressured into those expectations by his own parents.
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One thing that MASSIVELY pisses me off is how fainting is shown in media. It’s always the person sways a little, collapses in one movement, and then is unconscious for like… fucking ages??? They wake up hours later tucked under a blanket and it’s acted like that’s normal. It’s NOT. A person that’s fainted should be back with you pretty quickly, actually:
(From NHS website)
I had an experience in my last work place where I fainted, but because it looks so different to how it’s shown in film and TV my managers had no idea what had happened. Here’s a comparison of usual media vs my actual fainting that they were all confused by-
Films, TV shows, plays etc:
1) Person goes “oh goodness” or something similar whilst holding hand to chest
2) eyes roll back, gracefully falls to the floor
3) nearby people see the poor fainted person, pick them up, put them on a bed or sofa
4) person comes to hours or even days later with no idea what happened and everyone else is just like “oh good you’ve woken up 🙂”
My usual fainting experience:
1) Everything starts spinning. Incapable of making words as my sole focus is on trying to get myself to the ground ASAP
2) Stumble to floor/chair/ anything I can lean against
3) Quick violent slump as actual faint occurs. There is no dainty falling- the whole body has hit shut down. Usually smack my head on the floor if I haven’t managed to get myself somewhere soft
4) Aware of surroundings almost immediately, but takes a few seconds to fully come back round
5) Carefully sit back up and explain to everyone going “what the fuck happened” that I fainted, and no, I do not need smelling salts actually.
This is like the heart attack discourse... much needed.
100% how fainting looks and feels, from both sides.
So as an actor who is apparently terrifyingly good at making it look like I’ve fainted (and who also has come very damn close to fainting for real), I’m going to explain WHY media does it that way, compared to what you should actually look for:
1) Swaying: telegraphs to the audience that you’re unwell. If you pay attention you’ll also see characters do this a lot before vomiting./A person actually fainting is focused inward. They may be unsteady on their feet, but they’re not deliberately telegraphing anything.
2) The dainty fall: is safer than dropping like a sack of bricks, especially if you’re onstage where no fall mat is available. That’s it. I’m very good at actually falling like a sack of bricks without hurting myself, but most actors are taught the “come down slowly so you don’t break your tailbone” method. A full fall is also another way to telegraph to the audience that something has happened./An unconscious person is not worrying about their tailbone, or anything else, including whether any potential audience thinks it’s clear enough what happened to them.
3) Smelling salts: actual Victorian cure, which has to do with what kinds of things could cause fainting back then and also the Victorians being insane./We don’t do this anymore because we know it’s bad to inhale ammonia, actually. A bit of cool water isn’t a bad idea, though.
4) Waking up an absurd amount of time later: dramatic effect. That’s it. It may also come from the Victorian idea that when you’re sick you should “take to your bed,” and this getting folded into dramatic practice./Real life neither needs nor wants plot device.
Night assures us: that there is somewhere to go; that only God can take us there; that he does intend to take us there; that he takes us there in darkness; and that darkness must be lived in faith.
Iain Matthew, The Impact of God: Soundings from St. John of the Cross
can we talk about how literally 64% of people wear glasses, and yet we NEVER see them in movies/tv unless it's on some nerdy or uncool character? why do we adhere to such a weird beauty standard that subconsciously makes us feel bad for,, not being able to see???
I used to work for LensCrafters and I can tell you for a fact that they make a big deal out of wanting as many customers as possible to want to get contacts. Every meeting there was a reminder that we were to push contacts. Hell, the other employees /managers repeatedly tried to push contacts on me even after I informed them that there was no way that I would ever shove a piece of plastic into my eye.
To them, the difference between selling glasses and getting a customer to sign up for contacts is like the difference between selling a video game and getting a player to get a monthly subscription. And failing that their next big sell is for frames that cost twice to three times as much, but have little to no frame (and thus almost look like you aren’t wearing glasses at all) and are fragile as all hell (and thus are likely to break and have to be replaced).
They can’t rely solely on our prescription getting heavier or otherwise changing to the point that we have to buy a new pair every year. They want to push you to buy their product every time that you visit the optometrist and then some more in between.
As counter-intuitive as it might seem, it is in Big Optic’s best interest to convince us that we look terrible if we wear glasses.
The next time you need an eye exam, ask for a copy of your prescription. Take a picture too.
You can buy prescription glasses and even prescription sunglasses online for a fraction of the cost as they will force you to pay in stores.
The only thing you need is your prescription, and your pupil distance, which you can just measure at home
Firmoo.com
Eyebuydirect.com
I forget the other ones but these are the two I've used. Firmoo always has a lot of coupons and buy one get one free deals.
If you buy them online, you can get prescription sunglasses for $30. If there's a buy one get one sale, you can get two pairs of prescription sunglasses for $30. And they don't have to be the same prescription. You but yourself prescription sunglasses for $30, and you can get somebody else a pair of prescription sunglasses for free. Or just a backup set if something happens to the first one!
Seriously!
You do not need to be spending $60 on glasses!! Buy them online!!!
It also means that if you break them catastrophically, you can just reorder them online instead of having to go to the eyeglasses place, which would suck even more for you if your eyes are so bad that you can't drive.
I use zennioptical.com for my glasses, which is how I got the heart shaped ones
This is all true but it's actually because it's difficult to film people wearing glasses - they reflect the set lights and camera and stuff. So it's easier not to bother. Most times I've been filmed, doing any sort of head shot/speak to camera stuff, the camera operator has had me take mine off.
Knives Out went to ridiculous lengths to allow the actors to wear glasses, sculpting different light diffusers so the reflections would be natural and everything
https://twitter.com/deathpigeon/status/1630097242442047488
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When people try to raise the age of majority they’re doing so because they understand that children lack power in society and they’re trying to increase how many lack power and increase the concentration of power.
If someone tells you that 25 is the start of adulthood they’re saying that they think that too many people have autonomy, choice, and freedom and they want to take that away from them.
If someone tells you that neurodivergence means you stay a child longer than neurotypicals they’re telling you that they think that more neurotypicals deserve autonomy, choice, and liberty than neurodivergents.
When someone says these things, listen to them and understand it as the horrifying statement that it is.
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voting age in the US is 18 because military recruitment/draft age is 18 and during the Vietnam War there was a huge fucking outcry about boys too young to vote sent off to die 
 if anyone wants to raise the voting age, ask them if they’re going to raise the soldiering age or if they believe in using child soldiers 
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ALTI hope I never forget this till the day I die
Am I willing to let solidarity with people actually cost me something?
Would I fight for a cause that doesn’t benefit me, or may even result in me losing privilege?
Do I even know what that privilege actually looks like, in my every day life?
damn
Do it anyway.
THISSSSSS!!!🗣🗣🗣
And, yes, do it anyway!!!🤷🏾♀️💋
Remember y'all, white is not a race, it's a concept used to other anyone considered not white. Italians, polish people, Jewish people, all were at one point, and still are in many cases considered non white. Dismantling whiteness is not a personal attack on you, it's an attack on the societal mechanisms of white privilege and the othering of "undesirables"
The millennial litmus test for sexuality was 100% Pirates of the Caribbean. I was 13 when the first movie came out. Literally everyone walked into that movie having been lured there by the attractiveness of Orlando Bloom in LOTR. The truly straight girls had been drawn in by his entry-level attractiveness and walked out lusting over the significantly older and manlier Jack Sparrow. The others had been unconsciously drawn in by Legolas's femininity and walked out with their eyes opened and lusting over Keira Knightley.
Important missed categories that have been pointed out to me:
Not yet mentioned:
if you're agonizing over whether you're butch or femme you're probably neither. you literally do not have to be either one. if it feels restricting to you, then it's not for you! it's that easy
children outside screaming: annoying but ultimately for the greater good. children need Going Outside and Screaming Time for proper emotional development. an auditory burden I am willing to bear
neighbor with his car he made louder on purpose: jail for neighbor. jail for ten thousand years
“Hold this, I’ll bring him back
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Good fucking boy!
I like how the collie has no issues escaping its leash like it’s clear the only think keeping it in check is it iron will and strong moral compass.
Shifting your opinions and worldviews after listening to other people is good for you.
It's good for you and people around you.
Listen to other people's lived experiences. You don't have to 100% understand them, or really understand them at all.
Sometimes you just have to accept that someone's lived experiences are wildly different from yours. And in the end you realize that because you're both human you have infinitely more in common with them than not.
I used to hold so many rigid, exclusionary views, because of the context I was raised/socialized in. And then I started listening to other people and realized that life has way less rules that actually matter than most people seem to think.
And now I'm genuinely a happier person, and I don't waste my or anyone else's energy on debating over or policing others. I grew up.
I have been able to grant myself a richer, more fulfilling life and experience of myself, too. I have been able to find connections to people I previously would've missed out on. Try it.
"neckbeards" are a common facial hair pattern for people with PCOS and hirsutism and people who go on T and people who have a lot of weight on their face. It is not funny or cool or based to use physical features as a moral attack, and especially not when it's a common feature of intersex people and trans people and fat people and countless other types of people who society already mocks.
What?? Neckbeards are made fun of because they are too lazy to shave properly..
the fact that you see that as some sort of moral detriment is exactly the problem. Who the fuck cares what someone does with their facial hair, why does the way someone's hair grows naturally need to change. Terrible take. Get lost.
It's a natural growth pattern and not everyone WANTS to shave their hair in the first place. Maybe they're growing it out. Maybe they didn't have access. Maybe they're tired. Maybe they're happy with the way it looks. Maybe it's none of your business and you don't need to make rude assumptions about anyone's personality, ethics, or morals based solely on appearance! Go back to 3rd grade and actually listen to the lessons on how to be kind and polite.
tumblr is fun because people reblog the trans jesus post without a second thought but when someone tells a perfectly believable story it’s all “and everybody clapped”
